Why women have extramarital affairs?
Speak about a loaded topic that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on since old ages. Affairs can be burdened with problems, cause sadness, and other troubles. In addition you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness matter, money, age dissimilarity, spiritual education, guilt, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I should identify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating married woman.
Why do women have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seeking affairs. I suppose mostly though it is only the human nature, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
Biologically we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and fun, and sex makes us flee the world for a short period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone are able to turn the desire on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another person, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos culture has erected against married dating. For lots of people the yearnings will overcome their worries and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but society as well. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is terribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your family or anyone else? You would need to minimize the threat you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the major cluster, huge truly. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they feel comfortable in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to think about. Your funds are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay as a family besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them completing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair occasionally solves the trouble while keeping the marriage whole.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a common reason I fear. One or the other, as a rule the man is sexually neglecting his spouse for a number of reasons. As a man I actually appreciate you guys neglecting your wives and making them obtainable to us men of romance, making them “hot milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe caring is not here, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have simply grown separately, our ordinary interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is opposed to of what you want. Could be I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for economic gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.